It’s safe to say that for many of us (including myself), anger is one emotion that has the greatest effect on us when confronted. Everybody has a Red Button that they keep locked in a glass case but the longer we forget about the “thing” that triggers our rage, the worst the result is when we no longer know how to control it.
As of late, I’ve been having extreme bouts with anger regarding things that take place in my daily life. In my defense, I can say that I’ve gotten a lot better with taming it but worse when it comes to controlling it when it’s out (If you catch my drift). Instead of reacting without thinking like I used to, I learned how to think first & find a solution without letting the raw anger take over the situation. The only down side to that is that I kept the anger bottled up with nowhere to direct it. So lately as things test my patience, I’ve been letting my emotions seep out and make matters worse. Even if it’s not my fault, I still feel weird that I have this much Madness inside me. Being able to Relax while in the epicenter of your Anger is like telling a Hippo to fly, Impossible! So I wouldn’t dare tell you guys to take a chill pill. Instead, I have a few tips that’s worked for me & hopefully can work for you as well…..
1. Work Out: There’s nothing like blasting some DMX & 50 Cent in your headphones as you do your best to punch through a punching bag. Exercise is a great way to burn off some steam through sparring, running, weight lifting etc. Not only are you staying healthy but you’re also letting go of the stress you have.
2. Remove yourself From the Situation: Take a long drive, walk until your legs turn into spaghetti, whatever you can do in the few moments before you fire up will make a world of difference. By no means are you weak for doing so, this will just give you some time to clear your head without turning to violence etc.
3. Laugh: Is this situation going to matter in a month?! In the heat of the moment it may seem like the End All, Be All but it’s really nothing that can hurt you in the long run. Laugh at the issue to bring peace to yourself and reassurance that you are bigger then the present.
4. Use a Lifeline – Call a Friend: If you can’t stand to talk to the other person in the issue, get away for a bit & express how you feel to a trustworthy friend who will be able to make sense of the situation. They will be able to help you get through it with a better sense of self.
5. DO ANYTHING BUT BOTTLE YOUR ANGER: Take it from me, living as a walking Time Bomb is nothing less than stressful. That alone will be a key factor in you blowing up.
Truth be told, many cliché’s are usually the best pieces of advice. They just get a bad rap because people don’t actually take the advice. So the only thing I can leave you with is this question…..Will you allow this problem to pull you under or can you Rise above it?